Advice Column: Misto Keeti Vs Sage Wisdom Giver

Q: "I have been in a relationship for a while and have been disrespecting this woman. I do love and care for her and she feels the same for me..... But sometimes she does get frustrated when I do something that I'm not supposed to do and she finds out. Will she leave me even though she says she won't because she "loves" me?"
-Shabby

Misto Keeti: Oh drama!!! Ok, maybe part of the reason she’s mad at you because you ARE doing something YOU know you’re not supposed to do and the worst part is that YOU don’t even tell her. So duh, she’s going to be mad at you. A good relationship is based on honesty and open-ness. Disrespecting her is a big fat underlined no! Especially when you claim to “love her”.

Sage Wisdom Giver: I agree with Misto Keeti. He is right, a relationship is based on trust and openness and if you are not giving your partner either of those things, then how can you expect her to be a good girlfriend to you? Love can only get you so far. You need to try a little harder because if you keep on doing the THINGS that you are NOT supposed to do she will leave you in the end, so you need to start making some changes.

Q:"I lost a close friend of mine, to a car accident. She ran away from home, and later that day we got news of how an accident took place on the main street right beside where I lived. She died, due to the impact of the car, she lost her limbs and her face was crushed. Unfortunately it was a hit and run. My whole family is devastated. We were like family, we lived together, grew up together, spent days lazying around together. Everyone keeps telling me how I can get her replaced, if I wanted to but I question if its the right thing to do... It’s only been a few days. Do you think it’s too early to get her replaced?"
-Alfred the Great

Misto Keeti: There’s nothing wrong with making new friends. If your close friend had any sort of impact on your life, I don’t think she can ever be replaced as long as she’s alive in your heart and in your memories. I know what I said was lame but it’s true.

Sage Wisdom Giver: There is nothing wrong with moving on, actually it’s probably the best thing you can do. Be around people who love you, your friend would have wanted that. She wouldn’t have wanted to see you so depressed that you would swear off your other friends. If anything she probably wanted to see you happy. You will never replace her because she is your best friend, but you can move on and make new ones.

Q: "Its time to choose a course and career path for university and parents expect me to dive right into it, step my game up and what not... but I feel like I'm not ready and I don't want to give up my small window to temporary freedom after I graduate and jump into adulthood and more responsibilities just yet. I'm considering taking another half a semester in order to perfect my grades as well as take my time off getting ready for it all and just relaxing for a bit, and even saving up for my future expenses. A friend of mine said that I shouldn't take a year off because I'll lose interest in pursuing my studies but I don't think so, I'll just be preparing my self for absolutely dedicating my self to it. Whereas I don't think its okay to spend thousands of dollars starting university if I know I'm not ready and I'd not perform on my best. What do you suggest?"
-The Young are Fooled by the Wise

Misto Keeti: If you’re anything like me, balancing out a job, maintaining good grades, having a vivid social life, and making a portfolio for university, I think you would be already one foot outside the door of adult hood. All of us are scared of the real world, heck I’m not moving out ‘til I’m like 26! But the point is you’re going to have to grow up someday, might as well be now. There’s nothing wrong with taking a year off, as long as you have good buddies to keep you on track, kind of like what they’re doing right now (Hint Hint).

Sage Wisdom Giver: I think that it’s okay for you to take some time off for figuring out your life and where you want go and do with. If you know in your heart that you won’t lose interest, than the time off could be a very good idea. Perfecting your grades? Your parents couldn’t possibly argue with that and neither could I. Follow your instincts it’ll all work out in the end.